Question of the Day

[ayoub]

What is your opinion on internet dating services?

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Mostly, all I hear are horror stories... :P

Comments

[seegwa.livejournal.com]

First attempt - heart shattered into a million pieces when it didn't work out when we met.

Second attempt - Ugh

Third attempt - More Frog than Prince (you remember him)

Fourth and current attempt - who knows?

It's a lot of energy for not a lot/any payoff in the end. People are not the same online as they are in real life. Stick locally if you can and meet as soon as possible after first contact.

[willnobilis.livejournal.com]

Are you counting MMOs such as WoW and Second Life?

[wildepixie.livejournal.com]

Same as my opinion on RL dating services (RL as in "speed dating" or the like) - I wouldn't touch them with a barge pole.

All of my relationships have been organic not engineered...met, became friends, suddenly realised we were attracted to each other. I can't help it, I just have a severe distrust of meeting someone with the specific intention of having a relationship - I've never even been on the likes of a blind date because I just don't agree with the concept, it seems so false, everyone's lying and trying too hard to be what they think the other person will want.

Course, as I'm happily partnered, it doesn't matter much anymore :o)

[milagro75.livejournal.com]

Can't say I've had lasting success so far. Seems to me the best pairings are sometimes the random ones, or met through friends or something...

[kathyrene.livejournal.com]

Being married for a while now I wouldn't know. Recipe for disaster I would think.

[amante-donne.livejournal.com]

i've never used them, my mate met his missus on there though and she is nice, so I guess they can be ok.

[princess-charl.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure as I have never used one (being married and all that!) but I guess it depends on who you meet.

[bangdrum.livejournal.com]

They don't work. Well, certainly not if they're free *cough*OKCupid*cough*. Where do you think I met Psaul the Psycho?

[cerebralpig.livejournal.com]

I tried it... no other way of meeting men. A lot of effort... much disappointment...some fun was had... and I guess you could get lucky. I met Neil online in a chatroom... not a dating thing... just by chance. It is possible to meet wonderful people online as you well know. :D

I honestly...

[mikesmaddie.livejournal.com]

...have no idea because even though I met Bri online, it wasn't through an online dating service.

Instead it was in the former chatroom section of the TRIPOD site.

Hugs. *HG*

God bless and take care. :).
Olga/Maddie

[conservative67.livejournal.com]

They're a waste of bandwidth

[kingdavey.livejournal.com]

My ex-wife met her current husband via an internet dating site, so it's not all horror stories (although it may be turning into one for him *chuckle*)

[chiropteraclan.livejournal.com]

My experiences have been extremely bad. It's not much different than using a blogging site (like LJ or myspace) to find dates. The beautiful are stalked and fawned over like gods and goddesses. The "average" and less in looks are treated like garbage for not being absolutely perfect. And it seems that a lot of people have a lot of hyped up expectations about who they will find and are not honest about themselves.

It's pretty much like meeting people offline to date, but sped up and multiplied many times in number.

[corporatebeach.livejournal.com]

I met my husband on-line but not through a dating service. It was in a local chatroom of all places. :)

I always worry about how honest people are about themselves. I saw an old boyfriend on a dating site and I had to laugh at how good he made himself look. I had just broken up with him and knew he was living with his old girlfriend again. He said in his post he had a house and a job. LOL He didn't have either. That's why I dropped him. He was looking for a free ride. I feel bad for the woman who chose him. I'm sure she was disappointed.

Buyer beware. :p

[monkey.livejournal.com]

FTW!

[monkey.livejournal.com]

Fraught with failure.

[willnobilis.livejournal.com]

L33t, h@x, WTG?

[monkey.livejournal.com]

No, simply being silly. I laughed at the mostly accurate idea that in fact those services often do act as dating services.

[willnobilis.livejournal.com]

So was I. And I know all too well. My now ex wife left me for a guy she met in WoW after all.

[monkey.livejournal.com]

Well how lame is that? Sorry to hear that, but, you are likely better off.

Was he a dwarf or an orc.

[prettydeth.livejournal.com]

It's no worse than meeting people anywhere else as far as psychos go. And it's much easier to screen for mutual interests before I waste valuable "in-person" time with a sports-obsessed goon, LOL. Seriously, I'm a big fan of the whole internet dating thing and it's my preferred way to meet men, for varying reasons. And I've made some friends out of the deal.

[willnobilis.livejournal.com]

I believe he played a human, actually. Never really paid attention as I was also 10K kilometers away in Europe when it happened.

And yes I am much, much better off.

[monkey.livejournal.com]

I luckily escaped the clutches of WoW and its spinoffs early one. Massive time sucks.

[willnobilis.livejournal.com]

It is amusing but I never found it that addictive. Fun, yes. I liked playing it. But I also kept up with a social life and work life.

Note: I am also afflicted by chronic insomnia and have gone 3 months without sleep for no reason at all, so that might explain why I had plenty of time to spread around.

[monkey.livejournal.com]

Ya, that kind of condition would give you a fair amount of extra time.