Question of the Day

[ayoub]

Do you ever feel pressured in your own LJ?

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There have been times...

Comments

[amante-donne.livejournal.com]

sometimes yes, i feel sometimes i cannot say what i want in dear of hurting peoples feelings, i am getting soft in my old age

[speedingslug.livejournal.com]

Yes by the demon that makes me write lists who resides in my head. Still I have at least another 300 babes and 450 song links so all's well.

[rancidwolves.livejournal.com]

always.

[wildepixie.livejournal.com]

Unfortunately, yes.
Which is why I changed journals.

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

Pressure from inanimate objects is the least of my worries these days.

[sabatoa.livejournal.com]

No, thankfully.

[juciest.livejournal.com]

If people don't agree with what I have to say, they have the right to skip my journal. If someone has a differing opinion, they are welcome to inform me of their opinion, but to trash me in my journal because they don't agree with me, or to make a snapshot of my journal to post on someone else's journal and email to all and sundry is showing their stupidity and malice. I have had several people unfriend me because they didn't like what I posted on my journal. Well, you know what? I've read things on their journals that have offended me or that I didn't agree with, yet I didn't unfriend them because of it...someone's opinion isn't a reason to throw their friendship away and toss them out of your life. But good riddance to all who left, they were apparantly not friends to begin with.

I'm done worrying about 'hurting anyone's feelings' with my journal. It's become clear that others on my flist didn't care about hurting MY feelings on my own journal and on theirs. It's MY journal, and I can write what I like. If someone doesn't like it, they're welcome to leave.

[feywild.livejournal.com]

I think we all edit ourselves to some extent. We ultimately want people to like us, and as much as we try to be ourselves, there are (as Billy Joel put it) strangers that we don't let anyone else see.

[amante-donne.livejournal.com]

very true, that is the attitude i have most of the time, but once or twice in the past ive thought twice about posting something.

[chiropteraclan.livejournal.com]

Yes. And almost all of those people have either been filtered out or deleted altogether now.

[amnotcute.livejournal.com]

Sure. Then I ignore it and move on. It's my toy after all.

[texasts.livejournal.com]

I have indeed...But most of the pressure I felt has either been eliminated or I use a filter or two.

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*swipes question to post in my own lj*

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

"Pressured in my own journal"... *considers*

In so many ways. While I know I'm very upfront about me and my life, there are times when I'd like to pull a stereotypical female thing.

There have been times when well-meaning friends pretty much back you into a corner, and don't seem to realize what they've done. Or, worse, they're pulling some sort of power/dominance bullshit on you. After allowing one or two of those to slide by, I've had to put a stop to it. I'm not about to give up ME to be some brainless lackey to do their bidding.

*wry grin*
Then there's the control freaks. Yes, they know exactly who they are and what they're doing. They "mean" it with the best of intentions - really they do. *mock earnest look on face* Yet they never stop to consider how much I dislike the attempts to make me conform to their standards.

I may allow myself to be someone's 'bitch' for a short time - it's on MY terms and with very clear understandings and agreements.

Simply put?
These are MY boundaries. You don't like 'em; leave.

[shadowwolf13]

Heh ... Apis' ex wife reads my lj and she and her friends have used parts of it against us before ...

[nonickname96.livejournal.com]

sometimes... not all that frequently though. (fortunately)

♥

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

Pressured to post. Pressured to make it worth reading.

[uawildcatgrl.livejournal.com]

Nope...I tend not to surround myself with people who would do such things.

[corporatebeach.livejournal.com]

oh man.... never ever talk about declawing your cat in your journal. lol!! I got egged.

Re: *swipes question to post in my own lj*

[juciest.livejournal.com]

You said it so much better than I did. :)

Re: *swipes question to post in my own lj*

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Bah.
I've ranted about some of these things recently, so I had some prep work done ahead of time. ;)

[paradisacorbasi.livejournal.com]

Yes. I do sometimes.

Because people take what I say out of context, I ended up writing a huge disclaimer.

But even that isn't enough to stop it sometimes.

I know people who have had others defriend them for not posting to their LJ what their flists want to see.

[beloved-juno.livejournal.com]

Oh boy... stay tuned for a lengthy rant on this subject. I'm so pissed off about something. (It's not about you or any of my real friends on LJ though, so no worries.)

[prdct.livejournal.com]

yeah sometimes :/

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

As I posted in the ever_curious community (because I'm lazy and pasting it over here):

I'm always under pressure to be impeccable with my words, even when typing a comment on someone else's LJ. In my own journal I am under a lot of pressure to find the balance between self-expression, common courtesy and responsibility with what I say and how I say it. That's why even in matters of great controversy, I try to avoid blatant statements that could get someone who feels differently all riled up to defend themselves. That's where 85 to 90% of all DRAMA! comes from. Everyone has an inner 'asshole' and when another asshole comes along and points that out (or rubs it in our faces), we generally tend not to like it so much.

When I used to think about watching my speech as a loss of freedom of expression, and my inner whinger would always get his boxers in a bunch. It's definitely easier to tow the line if I think of it as perfecting the art of communication with a big spoonful of maturity on top. I adore my moral high ground. ^____^


Now... is there anyway to make the papal lord's horns glow red in a .gif? ^__~

[magsmom.livejournal.com]

very much so, but it's self inflicted. I write about Maggie and our lives together, but there is almost ALWAYS a positive spin. I'm a positive person, but not all the time. I've been wondering if I'm journaling or educating. Either way it's not totally honest and I pressure myself to keep it that way.