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Question of the Day
May. 8th, 2009 12:59 pmWhere is the farthest you've been from home?
Either India or South Africa... I'm not sure which one is further from here :D
May. 8th, 2009
Either India or South Africa... I'm not sure which one is further from here :D
[Brigit's Flame] May Competition - Week 1
May. 8th, 2009 04:46 pmAspirations.
When I was four years old, I wanted to be a train driver.
When I was ten years old, I thought of becoming a pilot.
When I was sixteen years old, I dreamed of being an avionics engineer.
But there was only one thing I aspired to, and that was to become a father.
I became a parent when I was twenty six years old, and again when I was thirty three. I'm still working on becoming a father.
That sentence may look strange to some, but it makes sense to me. Being a father isn't a title, or something that happens when a woman you've impregnated gives birth. It's bigger than that. It's in every decision that affects the welfare and development of your child. It's in deciding to use love to explain when they've done wrong, rather than anger. It's in having the patience to teach, and the courage to remain firm, even when their tears are breaking your heart. Being a father is a lifelong aspiration. I have been a father to my kids, but I aspire to continue to be one.
But that's how aspirations work, in my opinion. They can never be simple, and they have to encompass a lifetime.
When I was four years old, I wanted to be a train driver.
When I was ten years old, I thought of becoming a pilot.
When I was sixteen years old, I dreamed of being an avionics engineer.
But there was only one thing I aspired to, and that was to become a father.
I became a parent when I was twenty six years old, and again when I was thirty three. I'm still working on becoming a father.
That sentence may look strange to some, but it makes sense to me. Being a father isn't a title, or something that happens when a woman you've impregnated gives birth. It's bigger than that. It's in every decision that affects the welfare and development of your child. It's in deciding to use love to explain when they've done wrong, rather than anger. It's in having the patience to teach, and the courage to remain firm, even when their tears are breaking your heart. Being a father is a lifelong aspiration. I have been a father to my kids, but I aspire to continue to be one.
But that's how aspirations work, in my opinion. They can never be simple, and they have to encompass a lifetime.