Question of the Day

[ayoub]

How do you handle rejection?

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Fuck 'em... Their loss!

Comments

[always-a-storm.livejournal.com]

moving on is very easy for me.

[bangdrum.livejournal.com]

Er... badly.

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

Usually the same way you do.

[scottishdiva.livejournal.com]

The same way you do ~

[chandos.livejournal.com]

Depends on the situation. Usually I fret / obsess about things until I come to some acceptance, so I don't see why rejection would be any different.

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Depends on the nature of the rejection.

If it's something I've really been working hard towards... I get despondent.

If it's something I don't have a vested interest in, *shrugs* who cares? I've got plenty of other things to deal with.

[1jodie.livejournal.com]

as long as the rejection is direct, i'm fine and move on easily. when i don't handle rejection well (specific to dating) is when games are played. nothing annoys me more!!

[chiropteraclan.livejournal.com]

I guess it depends on how well I am living the concept of not having expectations. :) It also depends on what it is that is being rejected too.

[libra-dragon.livejournal.com]

Not really but I have gotten better recently with it.

[naimhe35.livejournal.com]

depends on who's rejecting

[tribalw0lf.livejournal.com]

I used to handle it badly. It wasn't obvious but I was lost in my head a lot of the times. It's amazing what standing up for yourself (from a different situation) does for you in other areas of your life. I like to think I handle it better these days.

I don't handle rejection...it handles me.

[winged-torment.livejournal.com]

I break down at rejection, down to the core of me. I analyze it, feel it, cry, anxiety, etc. I turn into a basket case. Sometimes, only for a few hours, sometimes for a few weeks.

But I rebuild from it. I call it bandaging...

[glowy-lovers.livejournal.com]

Badly sometimes

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

With a loaded gun in my mouth. Sorry, I meant chocolate! Yeah, that's it! With caramel, too!

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

With much wailing and gnashing of teeth. When that's over, I kill them... because I can.

[geordielass.livejournal.com]

Not very well.........lol.

[bluesgirly.livejournal.com]

I'm disgusted by it like any normal person :)

[smwright.livejournal.com]

Denial.

[popfiend.livejournal.com]

I get hurt.

My heart breaks.

I often cry.

My skin is thin in that way.

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

I have been rejected since I came out of the womb, so here is the philosophy I finally learned to adopt for myself.

First I look to myself to see if there is anything I need to inherently change because it doesn't play nice with the rest of society, which is to say that I use the experience to try to make myself a better person or to learn a lesson. (This is to preserve my moral high ground.) If I'm at fault, I'll beat myself up mildly, try to fix it (or start the process of fixing it) and move on. If I am not at fault and the other person is just a chump, then I really move on.

Either way, the probability is that I will utterly cast that person out of my life for all time for making me feel like shit. If someone has rejected me, I'm not going to beat myself up trying to reverse it - it never works. Fuck 'em!

[martina-d.livejournal.com]

It hurts my feelings, and I pout for a while. But even when I get over it, I don't think I really forget.

[seegwa.livejournal.com]

I get upset for a while. And then I accept - fuck 'em, their loss... But, it hangs around in the background to come out and harass me in other circumstances. :P

[hippie-geisha.livejournal.com]

I'm with you!

[daylight-broke.livejournal.com]

I cry and question myself. "What's wrong with me? Why did they reject me?" But then I usually cure my self doubt by saying, "Pfft! Screw this shit. I'm going out for some tea, yo! Goin' to get me some green tea or white tea! Peace out, muthaf--ka!"

[spacedlaw.livejournal.com]

I am used to rejection. It's compliments I have a problem with.

[legrandeval.livejournal.com]

Very badly. Minor rejection I shrug it off but when it's someone I love (especially family) I go to pieces.

[angellamongus.livejournal.com]

heh I wonder what I did wrong and other feelings to that effect. I'm a pretty insecure person.

[gratefuladdict.livejournal.com]

This exactly.

[beloved-juno.livejournal.com]

I'm pretty much the same as you in this respect. It's no secret that I think a lot of myself. While I'm incredibly lucky to know the people I do, I also think they're beyond lucky to know me as well. Rejection doesn't bother me. Like you, I honestly feel the loss is all theirs!

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

First sadness, then anger, then apathy.

[texasts.livejournal.com]

'Zactly!

[lizaah.livejournal.com]

I'm the same way.If you're showing signs of not being interested,don't waste my fucking time!

[stalkings.livejournal.com]

i instantly get angry or shocked then i get over it quickly. screw them anyways!

[nonickname96.livejournal.com]

Well, it used to be rather bad... but it's gotten a lot better.... now i kinda figure i should just let it go. I have enough friends and people in my life that love me and accept me as I am. :-)

♥

[photodiva02.livejournal.com]

Not well...

[castlelady.livejournal.com]

Not very well, I'm sad to say :/