I have been rejected since I came out of the womb, so here is the philosophy I finally learned to adopt for myself.
First I look to myself to see if there is anything I need to inherently change because it doesn't play nice with the rest of society, which is to say that I use the experience to try to make myself a better person or to learn a lesson. (This is to preserve my moral high ground.) If I'm at fault, I'll beat myself up mildly, try to fix it (or start the process of fixing it) and move on. If I am not at fault and the other person is just a chump, then I really move on.
Either way, the probability is that I will utterly cast that person out of my life for all time for making me feel like shit. If someone has rejected me, I'm not going to beat myself up trying to reverse it - it never works. Fuck 'em!
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Date: 2009-02-23 04:10 pm (UTC)First I look to myself to see if there is anything I need to inherently change because it doesn't play nice with the rest of society, which is to say that I use the experience to try to make myself a better person or to learn a lesson. (This is to preserve my moral high ground.) If I'm at fault, I'll beat myself up mildly, try to fix it (or start the process of fixing it) and move on. If I am not at fault and the other person is just a chump, then I really move on.
Either way, the probability is that I will utterly cast that person out of my life for all time for making me feel like shit. If someone has rejected me, I'm not going to beat myself up trying to reverse it - it never works. Fuck 'em!