Question of the Day

[ayoub]

If you could change one event in your past, what would you change?

Comments

[yndy.livejournal.com]

The *only* thing I would ever have changed:
I would never have started smoking.

I smoked for 20 years - at the end? 2 1/2 - 3 packs a day.

I quit cold-turkey 4 1/2 years ago. Hardest thing I ever did.
Wish I'd never smoked.

Everything else, I'd keep the same - love my life - and don't think I'd be who and where I am if I changed my past.
So I'll keep all the garbage - because without it, I wouldn't have my husband and daughter! :)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Good wish :)

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

i dont think i would change anything. why do i say that because in the last year i realized a lot of stuff about why things happen. i was mad about not getting into the nursing program and about not doing well in the social work program, but with all that happening, i found the major that ive wanted from square one, taken a diverse amount of classes and was able to be at home for the last two months of my fathers life. had i gotten into nursing, i would have been in my senior year of clinicals. had i been in social work i would have been in my senior internship. and at the point taht daddy got really sick, i was half way through the semester, meaning that it would be silly not to continue on with school and finish the semester as much as possible. while i could have easily finished out social work second semester, nursing i would have been set back a year. and i just realized that had i been in nursing, this summer i would have been highly suggested to have taken a nursing internship which would have taken me away from my family more then i was this summer, and it just wouldnt have been a good idea to have done anymore this summer then what i did, which wasnt much. i think things happen for a reason and you just cant change the past. the past happened, learn from stuff and embrase it. you may not like what happened, but it happened and we just have to deal with it and hopefully figure out why it happened later on.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:)

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

I agree with u. I have always said everything happens for a reason. Glad u were able to be with dad. I lost mine almost 7 yrs ago and although it sucked to see him go, i am glad i was with him. *hugs*

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

it took me a long time to become okay with everything happening. im still not okay with my dad being gone, but had i not taken a 5th year of school, had i gotten into one of the other programs, i wouldnt have been able to be at home. and i wasnt at home with grandpa when he died 8 months prior, and my dad was touch and go from the time i went home till the day he died, so it wouldnt have been good to go back and forth. its hard to find people to do that for you when you dont drive and live 3 hours from home when your at school. he hasnt been gone even three months yet, but i miss him every day and think about him every day, but wouldnt take those 2.5 months that i was home and not in school and was with him. ive had people try and guilt me out of being gone last semester and its just not going to work. sorry im half asleep and rambling, but thank you

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

ramble on, its ok.
*hugs*

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

thx. i went to bed after my ramble, but did sleep till a couple hours later

[inmyocean.livejournal.com]

Giving Jason a second chance to hurt me. Once cheating on me should of been enough and the end of it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight*

[inmyocean.livejournal.com]

live and learn, handsome.

thanks for the hugs.

*hugs back*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Some lessons are more painful than others, beautiful...

I have these arms, see, and they have to be good for something ;)

[ex-nothingto835.livejournal.com]

i'd have trusted a certain man a lot less with contraception duties. That was a nasty, scary experience, and one that's given me a lot of avoidable guilt.
It's tempting to say that I wish I'd just never met him, full stop. But that would be a lie. He was definitely a valuable life experience, we did have good times, and I did love him.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Thank you for sharing...

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

To have stopped and said hello to an ex boy-the love of my life-when i drove by his house a few yrs ago. But i did not because he was outside with his wife. He and i have a history that dates back to the mid 80's. ::sighs:: *hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Do you still know where he is?

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

i sure do. maybe someday i'll do a drive by again.
*hugs*

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

To have stopped and said hello to an ex boy-the love of my life-when i drove by his house a few yrs ago. But i did not because he was outside with his wife. He and i have a history that dates back to the mid 80's. ::sighs:: *hugs*

[torisrabbit.livejournal.com]

just i would done school differently. i think i would have been farther along there where i am now.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[leopardprints.livejournal.com]

If I could go back and change anything, it would be allowing myself to be a victim as a kid.
Instead of taking my cousins abuse, I would have gone straight to the school, the authorities, ANYONE...and begged for help instead of hiding what they did to me and being in denial. Same goes for my family's abuse of me. EVERYONE would have known right off the bat. They never would have gotten away with it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's a change that I understand...

[shadowshape.livejournal.com]

I've made some mistakes, but would probably only have responded to them in character,
if I had the chance. The one pro-active thing that I would do differently, would be to handle a certain person and situation differently right from the start
xxx

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[lilgeorgiawhore.livejournal.com]

A few years ago (a few months before Bush's re-election) my family was out to lunch with my dad's sisters and his cousin Cindy. For whatever reason, Cindy decides to start talking politics in the middle of the restaurant: we're all in the middle of our lunch, then all of a sudden she goes "So who you all voting for?" -- I think she was fairly confident she was sitting at a table full of republicans. I'm a liberal and, at the time, my sister planned on voting for Kerry. Somehow we got on the topic of abortion and I felt like I was the only one at the table who was pro-choice and got really emotional talking about it and couldn't really think clearly and hold my own end of the fight (plus, let's face it, having some stranger -- this was the first time I had met her -- come down on me for my choices in the middle of a restaurant isn't exactly an ideal situation for ANYONE). So, if I could go back, I would stand up for myself and my choices in a better manner and not just be buckled down into silence. These days I'm much more self-assured and confident when it comes to standing up for my beliefs and I will stand up for what I belief, regardless of the company I'm with. That day I wasn't.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's a good decision. Stand up for yourself :)

[sabriel007.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't change anything. I'm who I am because of everything I did or didn't do, and most the time, I like who I am quite a lot.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

Nothing. This is not to say that there aren't things that I regret doing or would rather have avoided experiencing, but every unpleasant experience or regrettable action in my past has taught me a lesson that I am better and happier for having learned. So I wouldn't trade them for anything.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Great answer...

[avis-noctis.livejournal.com]

Nothing.

I'm rather surprised to feel that I can say that, but it is entirely honest.

There have been things that I regretted. There have been things done to me and that I have done that have been hard on me, but ultimately, they have made me understand things better. If they hadn't happened to me then, they would have happened later. This is because they all involved mistakes and wrong-doings that stemmed from internal weakness that I had always harboured until they actually caused problems for me and others in the real world. This obliterated them, to a degree.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Excellently answered :)