If anything, you have to feel better because you have told him now...I'm glad you did. He needs to know how you feel about things so he can think about the situation/possible solutions as well.
*nod* I know I overwhelmed him. He doesn't really talk well about his emotions either, and we had an awful lot of silence in between too. It wasn't uncomfortable. He asked me how deep this all went. I asked him if he really wanted to know. He said he needed to know. So I told him that I would marry him if that was what he wanted. You can probably imagine the quality of silence that happened after that. It lasted at least a minute, and then he said, "Wow. I didn't know. You don't know how many times in the past few years I envisioned that. And now things are....complicated." And that is pretty much where we left everything. See my post this morning.
I think that it's okay for you to overwhelm him with your feelings. Sometimes we just have to lay it all out on the table to get through. At least you are both on the same 'playing field' now....
I just wish that things weren't so complicated for you both...but, such is life, huh?
Heh, yeah....he said I made things "pretty clear." I don't know what will happen now, but nothing has to be worked out quickly. I can't leave here for a few months, if anything. Beyond that, I don't know. I did tell him that I would look at Albuquerque as a place to teach, as he has been wanting to move back there. He's not happy with FL, and he doesn't like being so far from his family.
Time will tell. I really don't know where all of this will go. But tonight I found out that Fiona's dad really isn't all that concerned about us living near him after all. So there may be no point looking for a job up in the Pac NW now.
I read your post...it made me sad for her..and for him. I just don't get some people....but I guess that he's so used to his life now, with her spending most of the year with you, that he's almost emotion-less towards her. I guess you have to be to some extent; it would eat you alive inside wanting to be with them and not being able to.
He's had his chances. When we lived in the same town and lived across the street from one another, he would bail on his time with her a lot too so he could party. I really just do not understand. He could have more time with her, he really could. It is just too inconvenient.
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Date: 2007-11-11 03:27 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2007-11-11 03:54 pm (UTC)I just wish that things weren't so complicated for you both...but, such is life, huh?
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Date: 2007-11-11 03:57 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2007-11-12 03:22 am (UTC)yep...there are just too many people like that in the world. His loss for sure though.
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