Question of the Day

[ayoub]

Are you ever nervous about saying 'I love you'? Why, or why not?

Comments

[legal-beagle555.livejournal.com]

I don't know if I really mean it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's a tough one... Meaning it is necessary...

[jovi-diva.livejournal.com]

I'd have to say I'm pretty confident and I don't have a problem saying I love you. When I say it...I mean it! AND...It's nice to hear it back, but I don't HAVE to hear it back.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[spacedlaw.livejournal.com]

Less and less with age. Life is short after all.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Indeed it is...

[alainn-mactire.livejournal.com]

Nope. Because I don't say it if I don't mean it.

Saying it to a person for the first time can be a little nervewracking, but I'd rather say it than not.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

It's definitely better to say it :D

[kingdavey.livejournal.com]

I don't say it unless I mean it. I didn't say it to (http://www.livejournal.com/userinfo.bml?user=alainn_mactire)Pixie (http://www.livejournal.com/users/alainn_mactire/) for a long time at the start of our relationship. I didn't want to blurt out something that I wasn't 100% sure I meant.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

It's good to mean it, rather than not :D

[amante-donne.livejournal.com]

Saying this has caused me problems in the past. I have said it before, and although I meant it 100% at the time in hindsight I wondered if it really was the case. This was many years ago I am talking about it here. To be honest I rarely say it now, I don’t know why, maybe a fear of rejection, maybe something else.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

You can only say things based on the moment you're in... Hindsight has the benefit of 20:20 vision...

[sirenity.livejournal.com]

I love you, Ayoub.

Nope - not nervous at all. =)

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

Suck up ;p

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

No, I'm not nervous about saying "I love you".  The phrase doesn't cross my mind unless I truly mean it and I have had some life lessons that have taught me that the chance I get to say it may be the only chance.  Carpe Diem and all that...

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I agree that it should be said, and meant, as often as possible...

I love you! :D

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

Ne-vah!
*hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[chiropteraclan.livejournal.com]

Yes. Well, let me qualify that. I have no trouble telling my friends I love them. But that next level, where you move into romantic relationships, it takes me long time to say it then. When I do feel that way, I say it. But I am careful about it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That romantic one is much heavier... For me, these days, I have to be positive...

[gillian16.livejournal.com]

I am more afraid of feeling it in return then I am to say it and feel it for another.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Whyfor?

[seegwa.livejournal.com]

That is one arena in which I don't hesitate to express it if I feel it, in any form. The world needs more love and people need to know that they're loved more.

That being said - Love ya, babe. ;)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

Love ya too! :D

[uawildcatgrl.livejournal.com]

No...I believe you should tell the people you love that you love them before the chance is gone.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yes, you definitely should :D

[innerly.livejournal.com]

no..

i think it's because i grew up in a family where we often told each other that we loved each other, so it comes natural to me

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

That's wonderful :D

[bronxelf-ag001.livejournal.com]

Yes. Because it's sometimes difficult to know if you've said the right thing to someone you can't see.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yeah... That can be an issue, especially over distance...

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

No. But I've noticed a lot of people are damned nervous about hearing it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yeah... I've never had a problem hearing it :D

[macpurp.livejournal.com]

I say I love you to my hubby and our nieces and nephews and god-daughters all the time.
I have a few friends who I say I love you, on a regular basis.
My parents and siblings and I don't do the whole love you bit at all.
But I do say I love you to my sister, we also fall out fail out quiet alot but I always love her.
I know my parent's love me. But I have never heard them say it.

I don't say I love you to just anyone.

but you know I love you right?
you do know that.....Love you !

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

The fact that you don't say it to just anyone makes it all the more valuable :D

I love you too!

[katamphigorical.livejournal.com]

It took me 2-3 weeks to say those same words to my bf when he told me that. I just wanted to be realllly sure. And for awhile, it was sincere. Then he went away. And i'm not sure i'd take him back.

These days, i just wanna be washed of the whole thing. I don't want to love anybody. Not romantically anyway. It's too much of a hassle. Emotions are shite.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Emotions are tough things... But very rewarding too :D

[dishapeaches.livejournal.com]

Never. I don't say it unless I really mean it. I say it to my kids every day, several times a day even. The bf too. I'll bet he's even sick of it by now, lol.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I doubt he'd be sick of it :D

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Always, because I might be wrong.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Being wrong isn't a bad thing... :D

[mishi-ragdoll.livejournal.com]

im always nervous about saying i love you, because obviously there's that fear that the person you're saying it to won't love you back. but i dont like the say i love you too often, because after you keep saying it over and over again it loses meaning and it just becomes an automatic thing. when i say i love you i expect it to feel as if it's my first time saying it.

[heardthatnoise.livejournal.com]

Only if I say it to someone in a relationship first.

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

Only when I was trying to get into a relationship with Nan. Everyone else had rejected me, so why shouldn't she? It was like having a gun barrel pointed at me. Thankfully, she said "I love you too", so I'm not afraid any more.

[empatia.livejournal.com]

No, I've only truely been in love once...it comes easy with him. If it's not easy/real...I don't say it.

[mjtheanarchist.livejournal.com]

Nah. Cause I usually just don't say it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

If you said it, it would be devastating...

Just sayin' ;)