Question of the Day

[ayoub]

Is it easier to self destruct than it is to self construct, and why?

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It's easier to tear down from within because it's easier to be your own worst judge...

Comments

[alainn-mactire.livejournal.com]

Yes.
Because sometimes it's far easier to believe that you yourself are the cause of all the problems than to accept that perhaps you are in fact the only one /only thing that's standing strong in the midst of all the chaos.

*shrugs* Or, to steal a quote from Pretty Woman...
" The bad stuff is easier to believe..."

[milagro75.livejournal.com]

I totally agree on the PW thing! I reference that one myself sometimes.

[babystar620.livejournal.com]

your answer 100%.

[seegwa.livejournal.com]

What you said and negative outside influence and reinforcement plays a big role.

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

It is entirely dependent on the impacts of the successes you've had. If you've clung to more successes than failures, it's easier to self construct. There's always half a measure of water in the glass. Whether one sees it as full or empty is dictated by past experience and current conditions.

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

And I submit to you that you can also be your best judge just as easily.

[smwright.livejournal.com]

I agree. Easier to destruct. We are, I think, destructive creatures by nature.

[1-rhiannon-1.livejournal.com]

Yes. It's always easier to tear down than it is to build up. One "wrecking ball" - BOOM! The crumbling begins.

[chandos.livejournal.com]

It's easier to self destruct, because a truly optimistic person is rare - and I think they are the only folks who find it easier to self construct.

I strive to be an optimist, and I'm pretty successful for all things externally. However when I look to myself all I see are the flaws, failures and disappointments.

[soothethemuse.livejournal.com]

It is...

One little chink in the armor and every single doubt you've had about yourself starts to seep in like trickling water. It may take some time and thinking, but if you recognize it for what it is it's much easier to fix the hole than deal with a flood.

*hugs*

[kathyrene.livejournal.com]

I believe that humans are born with both survival and self-destructive qualities with the will to survive being the strongest. Over time, if we tend to develop more self-destructive behaviours than constructive behaviours then when we are hit hardest by life’s challenges we might make the self-destructive choice. The opposite of a pattern of developing self-constructiveness would be true in choosing self-construction.

Being kind to ourselves, developing altruistic qualities as well as a thick skin can't hurt either.

So yes my point is that it would be easiest to do whatever you're used to doing. 'Easy' can become such a hindering habit.

[nonickname96.livejournal.com]

Sin. We were created as sinful creatures and as such we tend toward destruction instead of construction. This can be changed but only through the blood of Christ Jesus.

(i know you disagree, but this is my perspective and the best answer i can give to this question)

♥

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

Cuz the former takes less lying and exaggeration than the latter.

[dolorinterno.livejournal.com]

I am my own worst enemy. Its easier to believe the bad... Not sure why

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

Sure it's easier to self destruct, but it's a helluva lot harder to recover from such a thing.  Self constructing seems hard at the surface, but in the long run, it's easier to work with what you have than to start from scratch after self destruction.

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

That entirely depends on how thorough you really want to be. Anything worth doing, is worth doing right and doing it right the first time. Then add in your conditioned response. Yes, CONDITIONED response. You're taught how to be positive or negative from childhood learned behaviors. Oh, and don't forget life experience. That one will definitely have an impact.

Take a deep breath, it's ok. Really.

For me, it's easier to self construct. Stop looking at me like that, and hear me out. I was taught the skills to build something from nothing at a fairly early age. I'm constantly creating and building. This is reflected in everything I do, see and say.

Without going into this really long and overblown explanation, I'll leave you with this:

You can't attempt to destroy something without creating something else at the very same time.

[hippie-geisha.livejournal.com]

I don't think either one is easy...

[bia22.livejournal.com]

i think self destruction almost comes naturally to us and self construction requires hard work, guts and a sense of "i deserve better"

As a Christian, i think it comes naturally to destruct because we are born in sin in a sinful world ready to tear us down.

[nonickname96.livejournal.com]

I agree... very much so.

I also think that true "construction" is only possible through Christ Jesus's redemption.

♥

[stalkings.livejournal.com]

I don't know- for me personally I'd say it 's 50/50. I've never been able to completely tear myself down. I have a really strong intestinal fortitude! When I feel the slightest twinge of self destruction- I go do something constructive!

[ornjkitty.livejournal.com]

It's easier to self-destruct, because nature abhors a vacuum. If you're not actively working on constructing/growing, the universe is active at work breaking down/recycling -- it's kind of a use-it-or-lose-it proposition.

By the same token, however, there is some sort of Conservation of Matter here. You don't break down into NOTHING. But if you're not actively taking a hand in determining what you break down into or grow into, the universe is going to throw it all into a pot and make soup out of it. What you get in the end is just what you get -- it's a potluck after all. In the end, the only thing you can only trust for certain you'll be able to eat is what you've brought yourself, so you'd better hope you're a good cook!

[mysticpickle.livejournal.com]

Anyone can tear a house down. Only a home builder knows how to build one. ;) Just my 2 cents!

[beloved-juno.livejournal.com]

I don't think it is for me. My pride makes it very hard to self-destruct, I think, as I'm borderline obsessed with trying to be perfect. Construction is definitely what I do best, even when it's not necessarily in my best interests.

[castlelady.livejournal.com]

Your answer says it all :)

[aumonae.livejournal.com]

Sometimes it is easier to construct because when you're on the bottom the only way out is up!

[patchworld.livejournal.com]

Cause self costruction demands emotions, feelings and such features of your character that must be cultivated, that demands great willpower, self destruction is caused by self pity, pain and is very often reminds me of addiction, in order to run away from the reality and truth, you try to find some ways to hide yourself in the world, that doesn't exist,but made up by you.