Question of the Day

[ayoub]

What is the difference between assertive and aggressive?

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[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LMAO!

:D

[ex-nothingto835.livejournal.com]

aggressive doesn't know when to stop.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's a good one :D

[amberpixiewolf.livejournal.com]

assertive is knowing what i want and trying to get there.
aggressive would be telling other people what they "want", lol

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

I like that one...

[aishaelderwyn.livejournal.com]

I see you've meet some of my relatives...

[kosta-pasta.livejournal.com]

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;)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Or better still http://www.m-w.com

:D

[inspectorjury.livejournal.com]

Assertive is yelling.....Aggressive is with a punch. LOL or or or wait.....Assertive is yelling with a certs in your mouth. and Aggressive is yelling with a fist in your mouth. LOL

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

Great answer man!

Good to see you!

[kay.livejournal.com]

being assertive is standing up for your rights ... being aggressive is feeling you have every right.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Excellent answer! That's very much the way I see it :)

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

Assertive - striving for your goals without being an asshole.

Aggressive - being an asshole and not really striving for anything.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Niiiiiice! :D

Agreed!

[hiddenshallows.livejournal.com]

aggressive = steve irwin
assertive = the stingray

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Oooooo

Ouch...

[issabellablue.livejournal.com]

I'm not answering. (Passive aggressive?)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LMAO!

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

In the former, the user is a person able to justify a negative behavior (the latter) with a positive spin.

Eg: Being fired without cause is aggressive corporate behavior. Being fired with fictioned cause that hides the fact that the company simply wants more profit and has decided you're expendable, is assertive action taken on behalf of the shareholders.

A man who beats a passerby for fifty cents change is aggressive. A man who beats a passerby because of the frustration of poverty and its resultant hunger, needs the fifty cents to survive, and is therefore simply an assertive victim celebrating his right to share in the pie of life.

(If you believe I believe any of this.... You must think I'm aggressive, when really, I'm just assertive)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I love your examples, but I can't help but think they're very very borderline ;)

(And you're definitely not aggressive, my friend :D)

[ex-xavierism85.livejournal.com]

It's pool time!

Have a great week!

*SHOOPERS*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Have fun!

[clemidia.livejournal.com]

GENDER.

Women are seen as aggressive while men are seen as assertive.

Now--GET OUT OF MY WAY!

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Money.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I see your thinking, and it makes sense :)

[infinitywhisper.livejournal.com]

Aggressive says I care what I want, and will get what I want.
Assertive says I care what is needed and will work with you to get what is needed.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

A very very good definition :)

[yndy.livejournal.com]

Where the line is...

Assertive: this is my side of the line - I will not let you cross it

Aggressive: this is my side of the line - I will go over the line into your side at any chance

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Great answer :D And a good way to look at it :)

[aishaelderwyn.livejournal.com]

They way I see it, assertive is when you take action and go and "do" something. It's not about doing something to anyone, it's just doing something about a situation you wish to either complete, continue, or are enthused with. The word motivated could also be used instead.

The word "aggressive" however to me implies anger and violence be it via yelling, hitting, silent looks, mood penetrations, all that emotional game stuff people do. Yes people can be agressive to also complete, continue etc but when they are they are usually pushy, rude, inconsiderate, in a rush, often violent, and at the very least impolite.

Therefore, my conclusion is that there is a big difference between the two. Your take on the matter?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

There is a big difference...

The difference between a leader, and a bully...

[crescent-fresh.livejournal.com]

other than connotation, i don't think there is one. assertive has a more positive connotation, thanks to the dog whisperer and his penchant for calling bad behavior "aggressive."

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

You don't think there's a point where assertive becomes aggressive?

[ornjkitty.livejournal.com]

The amount of coffee one has had in the morning?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAA!

[soulview.livejournal.com]

Assertive: Using your own power to get what you want and need.

Aggressive: Stealing others power to get what you want and need.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Excellent definitions :)