Sorry... I was away from the computer for a week and I lost touch!
Instant respect for me is: HONESTY.
One of my biggest pet peeves is a person that cannot look you in the eyes while they're talking... even about simple things. It gives the impression that they are holding back or not being truthful (which most people are doing so when they exhibit such behavior.)
I think honesty is one of the most important things in life. How can we grow as a person if we cannot be honest about the things we do- even if we are wrong? We cannot possibly learn from our mistakes if we don't take ownership.
A personal experience I'd like to share:
At work I was often left in charge of running our department. I didn't always know what or how to do things. Most of the time, there was no one around to ask questions. On one particular evening, a major issue came up... as usual, there was no one to look to for help. So, I made a decision and acted. I later realized that I had clearly made the WRONG DECISION and that I could be fired.
I went into work the next day expecting for my supervisor to coach me or fire me. It really was a gross mistake. I should have known better. Well, he called me into the office and talked to me. At first, my thoughts were to DENY DENY DENY or make some sort of excuses to save my rear end. I knew though that the only chance I had was to simply tell him the truth. That I wasn't sure how to handle the situation- I made a decision and acted. That I realized later it was terribly wrong and that I would take whatever punsishment was needed to remedy the situation.
Honestly, he said he was shocked. He did not fire me or even write me up. He told me that because I was truthful with him he could respect me- even though I made the wrong decision. He promised to take time out from then on to stick around more to answer questions I had- and he did. I learned from my mistake and kept my job.
If we all were truthful with one another, the world would be a better place!
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Date: 2007-02-16 06:45 pm (UTC)Instant respect for me is: HONESTY.
One of my biggest pet peeves is a person that cannot look you in the eyes while they're talking... even about simple things. It gives the impression that they are holding back or not being truthful (which most people are doing so when they exhibit such behavior.)
I think honesty is one of the most important things in life. How can we grow as a person if we cannot be honest about the things we do- even if we are wrong? We cannot possibly learn from our mistakes if we don't take ownership.
A personal experience I'd like to share:
At work I was often left in charge of running our department. I didn't always know what or how to do things. Most of the time, there was no one around to ask questions. On one particular evening, a major issue came up... as usual, there was no one to look to for help. So, I made a decision and acted. I later realized that I had clearly made the WRONG DECISION and that I could be fired.
I went into work the next day expecting for my supervisor to coach me or fire me. It really was a gross mistake. I should have known better. Well, he called me into the office and talked to me. At first, my thoughts were to DENY DENY DENY or make some sort of excuses to save my rear end. I knew though that the only chance I had was to simply tell him the truth. That I wasn't sure how to handle the situation- I made a decision and acted. That I realized later it was terribly wrong and that I would take whatever punsishment was needed to remedy the situation.
Honestly, he said he was shocked. He did not fire me or even write me up. He told me that because I was truthful with him he could respect me- even though I made the wrong decision. He promised to take time out from then on to stick around more to answer questions I had- and he did. I learned from my mistake and kept my job.
If we all were truthful with one another, the world would be a better place!
Ok- enough rambling. LMAO