Question of the day

[ayoub]

Is it truly better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all?

Comments

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

You changed the question!! *kicks you* Just for that, I'm going to sit in the corner and pout.

[fire-fox01.livejournal.com]

SEAN BEAN!!!!

Sorry, I love that guy. :)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:P

:D

[fire-fox01.livejournal.com]

Speaking from someone who just had her heart torn apart: Yes. It's worth it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

But what level/form of love are you referring to? And does time factor into it?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

The deepest... And it's your answer bud :D

[flirtini.livejournal.com]

um, ignorance is bliss?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Very good answer :D

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

To me,: Yes, absolutely.

I've had my share of fun between the sheets, but before N, I had not known love requited from anyone other than family. I know that I'm a good person because I've heard it - from accidental over-hearings to people telling me directly; yet somehow, I never had anyone fall in love with me.

I began to feel that there was something wrong with me. I started resenting couples and the whole concept of companionship at that level. I read something that I wrote in frustration just prior to getting together with N. It was ugly. I think that I might have been going mad in a very real but scarily subtle way.

I think that I've become more whole now for having loved. It may be the exception to the rule that ignorance is bliss. Not having loved is a very special and terribly awful kind of hell on earth.

Funny how personal that question is to me.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Not having love is a very scary thing, and I believe that fear is stronger in guys.

Didn't mean to open old wounds, my friend...

[jeremyb.livejournal.com]

Before I met Lisa, I would have said no. Love was for idiots who didn't know better. Having met her though, I don't think I have generally been happier. If, for whatever reason, this relationship doesn't work out, I can definitely say it was worth it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[bratt72.livejournal.com]

abolutely! without getting into an in depth answer about love itself. i feel this about trying everything at least once. the more information you have the better you can base future decisions on. if you've never tried something how do you know if its not for you?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Excellent answer :D

hello

[miriyasterling.livejournal.com]

You're on two of my friend's lists... I see you often on Autumn_eyes's so I thought I'd post a hi.

Re: hello

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Hi's are great :D

Good to meet you!

[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

relative.. completely relative.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Relative... To the depth of love?

[inmyocean.livejournal.com]

I think it's a double edged sword depending on how badly we have been hurt in the past. But I do believe we get a better appreciation/understanding of what is real love and what we really need if we have experienced the bad that goes along with the good.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Being hurt in love is truly a horrible thing, but then, love can be lost in other ways too...

Can we really come to terms with the pain enough to see the good again?

[xjenavivex.livejournal.com]

yes

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Very direct answer :D

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

Definitely.

Especially if your lost love turns back up years later with a new goatee, black mask and pirate ship to save you from the evil prince.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

Gotta love the Princess Bride...

And I need to steal that icon too!

[lilgeorgiawhore.livejournal.com]

Yes, absolutely.

I've loved and lost. Once I loved than lost the same guy about three different times (I'm clearly a masochist when it comes to him, which is why I don't talk to him anymore. That and he's an asshole). While the losing is hard and hurts and sometimes you wonder if you'll ever make it, I have learned from the different experiences and I am able to recognize what I want and need in a relationship and I've gained the courage and self-respect to walk away when I'm not getting it, and, luckily it worked in my favor because when I walked out of those other men's lives, I walked right into my boyfriend's.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Three times? Wow...

You've learned a lot from all of it though...

[miriyasterling.livejournal.com]

I have honestly only loved one person. The way of it though is I didn't realize what love really was until I met him. I truely think that many times when we meet someone and it doesn't work out we had feelings for them and confuse that. The truth is if you stay with just someone that you have feelings for you cheat yourself. You make wonderful memories but you settle for something that is good for fear of giving it up and having nothing.

To love, as in to suddenly realize you can't remember life without them. Can't imagine life without them... even when you think it's over something draws the two of you back together? I truly don't believe you are alive until you feel it. To say that you live after it's gone though is difficult.

I had a friend whose grandmother died... her grandfather lived everyday waiting until he was with her again. So I'm not sure that the love is lost. It's always there with you and I'm not sure you continue one after that person is gone.

I honestly can only hypothesize however I've yet to lose my love and frankly though naively I must say I hope that I don't.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I hope you don't either :)

[innerly.livejournal.com]

yes...
if i lose Cris for whatever reason (i hope with all my heart that will never happen).. i know that i'm going to feel like dying... but no one will take away the memories we have shared (and mariana)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

So true...

The memories will always remain...

[arctic-wolf.livejournal.com]

I'm also gonna go with the 'ignorance is bliss' angle. Can't miss what you never had. :P

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

But aren't you curious as to what it would be like?

[torisrabbit.livejournal.com]

yes. i think i wouldn't be where i am right now at this moment if i didn't fall in love with Karl, and know what to look for..if that makes sense?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yes it does...

[nycowgirlpoet24.livejournal.com]

it definitely is better to have loved and lost because without love, what is the point to life? it sucks to be alone and it hurts worse to be alone, feeling rejected and having no one there to cheer you up...when you have loved at least once in your life, you have reached the purest moment of perfection and when you lose that love, you can always think fondly back onto that moment and smile and know that you have experienced something only a few people are lucky enough to experience and it makes you want to have that feeling again ♥ ~Sam~

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Definitely :D