Question of the day

[ayoub]

Is it truly better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all?

Comments

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

You changed the question!! *kicks you* Just for that, I'm going to sit in the corner and pout.

[fire-fox01.livejournal.com]

Speaking from someone who just had her heart torn apart: Yes. It's worth it.

[fire-fox01.livejournal.com]

SEAN BEAN!!!!

Sorry, I love that guy. :)

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Sean Bean is damn hot!

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

But what level/form of love are you referring to? And does time factor into it?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:P

:D

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

The deepest... And it's your answer bud :D

[flirtini.livejournal.com]

um, ignorance is bliss?

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

To me,: Yes, absolutely.

I've had my share of fun between the sheets, but before N, I had not known love requited from anyone other than family. I know that I'm a good person because I've heard it - from accidental over-hearings to people telling me directly; yet somehow, I never had anyone fall in love with me.

I began to feel that there was something wrong with me. I started resenting couples and the whole concept of companionship at that level. I read something that I wrote in frustration just prior to getting together with N. It was ugly. I think that I might have been going mad in a very real but scarily subtle way.

I think that I've become more whole now for having loved. It may be the exception to the rule that ignorance is bliss. Not having loved is a very special and terribly awful kind of hell on earth.

Funny how personal that question is to me.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Very good answer :D

[flirtini.livejournal.com]

yay! what do i win? :)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Not having love is a very scary thing, and I believe that fear is stronger in guys.

Didn't mean to open old wounds, my friend...

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

A hug!

::HUG::

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

I like to have parameters before engaging in philosophical discussion.

Deepest Love, for sake of argument, I'll consider an abiding soul-level relationship that probably includes some degree of physical intimacy.

My answer: If you grow up knowing about the concept of "love", then yes, it is better to have the experience at least once, hopefully for a bountiful amount of time. Humanity is in love with the concept of LOVE. Actually, we're downright obsessed with the romantic notions of it. Every fairy tale and great epic drama includes it. Poems and graffiti have been written about it since humans formed civilizations. It tends to be a bit of a let down when you realize that you really have to work at maintaining a relationship. Most stories only show infatuation, which isn't actually LOVE... it is the first doorway into desiring to know a person so intimately that you fall in love with them over time.

But honestly, if a person doesn't know of or understand the concept, I don't think they should bother. It's too much like a 90 year old person getting on the internet for the first time on their first computer. Full of hassles and strife for themselves and the people they encounter... and unnecessary to maintain their way of life.

[jeremyb.livejournal.com]

Before I met Lisa, I would have said no. Love was for idiots who didn't know better. Having met her though, I don't think I have generally been happier. If, for whatever reason, this relationship doesn't work out, I can definitely say it was worth it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I prefer to let you set the parameters according to your feelings :D

So if you don't know what it is, how can you miss it?

How do you explain the feelings associated with the deepest form of love to someone?

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

Opening them?! HA! No, my friend! This is merely the scar! This is where the shark bit me! I've been hoping someone would want to see it! *LMAO!*

No, it's all cool. I survived it well. If I was still going through this self-styled madness, my answer wouldn't have been such a rant. =)

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

Sean Bean is like the UK's version of Patrick Swayze in that he's a good actor but cries in almost every movie as a tough-guy. =)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LMAO!

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

So what happened with N?

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

Well, it's a little hard not to know what it is... it's everywhere. It's flavor and spice for media. Did you know that Roman graffiti used to say the same things ours does? "Germanus amat Julia." Seriously. People designated gods and goddesses just to monitor Love. Think about that. People set up pantheons in order to enable some control over Love. It's actually rather amazing. How many women and men have prayed to Aphrodite to gain the mate of their infatuation? I don't even want to begin to calculate. Hells... people still do it, today. I'm just thinking about this... and I'm amazed! Over a simple feeling that begins with ego, subconscious desires, and the biological need for union with another of our own kind... for companionship and (possibly) procreation. Our capacity for love begins with chemicals inside of our brain. And yet, it can override the basic self-preservation instinct.

Anyway...

I wouldn't actually describe in words what deepest love feels like. If they absolutely had to know, I'd have to play a song for them, or show them art, or both. It has to be something artistic, abstract and absolutely moving, because love must be felt in order to be understood.

PSST...

[fox-bard.livejournal.com]

N = Nan

Re: PSST...

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Ah...

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