Question of the Day

[ayoub]

Do hearts ever forget pain, or love?

Comments

[wait.livejournal.com]

Never.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Great icon!

And yes, I agree...

[wait.livejournal.com]

In the same vein, just because you never forget does not imply that you cannot grow and move on... even from someone who made such a deep impression.

[avis-noctis.livejournal.com]

No. One may perhaps ignore it or temporarily forget that it happened. But whether consciously or subsciously, once something has occurred, it becomes an integral part of that person; it affects their tendencies and nature, however subtly or not.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Great answer :)

[ex-nothingto835.livejournal.com]

definitely not. i think that, asides from the whole "betrayal is too strong, love is too strong" argument...humans are just biologically made to remember. It's almost like a protection mechanism. "If I remember, on some deep level, how he or she loved me/hurt me, I can either go the same way to attain that love, or make sure I never make the same mistakes again".
Shame it never works out that way...

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yeah... sometimes it's hard to learn from the mistakes...

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

Ok i have to be the oddball here... Hearts do not remember nor feel i thing. The brain is the master of all sending its signals throughout the body. Hee hee. the hurt remains and may take over only if you allow it to. Nothing is forgotten till and if only memory fails. *hugs*

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

Oops. That should have been... Nor feel A thing... *hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

For this purpose, let's say the heart is the emotional part of the brain...

then?

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

ugh. you're killing me-LOL
nope it does not forget, but it should not
harbor the pain either, not healthy.
*hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:)

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

Only if it's kind.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[lilgeorgiawhore.livejournal.com]

Never :-)

Here's a quote that I think sums up my theory on this, and although this is referring to grief, I think pain and love both fit it: Grief does not expire like a candle or the beacon on a lighthouse. It simply changes temperature

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

An excellent quote :)

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Would you want it to?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

At times, I'd want it to forget the pain...

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

It sounds cliche (mostly because it is):
Time heals all pain.

Eventually, it turns to a dull ache, and then to nothing.

It's whether or not you're willing to let it do what it needs to do to heal.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Time doesn't heal pain, other memories, newer ones, block it out.

All it can take is the right combination of sights, sounds, and scents, and the pain returns.

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Then you're not ready to let it go OR to put it behind you.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Either that or a good memory...

[shadowshape.livejournal.com]

no
'your task is not to seek love, but...'
blessed be!
xxx

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

I know I never forget.. but it sure as hell seems as if some people do.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Good answer :)

[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

thanks..

[miriyasterling.livejournal.com]

No to both. I think though we might put the pain or love out of our minds it's always there. Like our scars they make us who we are.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Very well described...

[mousie.livejournal.com]

Love is what shapes us.... who I have loved in the past, effects how I love now... Pain that I have felt in the past, makes me more sensitive to others today... I would say my answer is that love and pain are like your skin... you dont think of them daily... or sometimes even remember they are there.. but they are.. always... shaping you in some way, just like your skin...

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

An excellent answer :)

[mousie.livejournal.com]

damnnnnnnnnnnn.. sometimes I wish I were a snake... lol

[nancymccoydfw.livejournal.com]

nope

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

More importantly, do the minds?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Interesting...

[nyc-poet.livejournal.com]

never...the heart can let go of pain or become numb to it, but it can remember it...the heart can deny love, try to run away from love, or accept it...but it can't forget it...the heart forgets nothing...♥ ~Sam~

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

No. What would the world come to if they did? Pain may not be pleasant, but it's crucial to a functioning existence. Ask anyone who has been afflicted with leprosy what it's like to live a life without physical pain, they will tell you that it involves a lot of injuries and lost limbs that could have been avoided if their nerve endings were in working order. So with emotional pain and guilt: they may not be fun, but you loose important things if you don't have them.

As for love...it seems to me that forgetting love could be even more damaging than forgetting pain.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Forgetting love would be more damaging indeed...

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

no, it just gets lessened, but is always there

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:)