Question of the Day

[ayoub]

Do you hide your feelings?

Comments

[infinitywhisper.livejournal.com]

Not usually. What I hide is the conflict IN my feelings. I don't feel comfortable with it. . . and I often get very quiet until I can work the conflict out.

Sometimes I find myself pressing the feelings away from me . .. can't hide what I am not aware of. . . sort of thing. I find that a lot when I think about Joe's death. That is incredibly painful, even now. . . and I push it away in order to deal with my day to day life.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

**holds you close**

I love you...

[pasticcio.livejournal.com]

Yeah, sometimes .. not everyone can handle my feelings, yanno?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

What makes you think that?

[yndy.livejournal.com]

I don't know.

I think I do at times - and at others, I'm completely incapable of doing so.

I'm sure I must - but not as a concious thing.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Do you find yourself realising something hidden occasionally?

[evergladesqueen.livejournal.com]

my feelings for a man, yup a good portion of the time.
*hugs*

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Why?

[electricsoupie.livejournal.com]

Most of the time I let my feelings out, I am a pretty open book that way. I dont let my feelings out when I think it will hurt someone else though.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's very reasonable :)

[delphaicdragon.livejournal.com]

Most of the time my emotions are out there for everyone to see... but yeah, there are times when what I'm feeling or who I'm feeling it about really doesn't need to be seen, you know?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yep... I know :)

[mighty-rontor.livejournal.com]

As necessary.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

First of... I think that's the shortest answer you've given me :P

And yet, I fully understand :)

[pi-girl.livejournal.com]

only about jymferrier because my feelings are crazy and all over the place.

Otherwise nothing....especially today with pms and being grumpy!!!

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yeah....

**hugs**

[heardthatnoise.livejournal.com]

Absolutely.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I did too...

[kabandra.livejournal.com]

That's a oretty big no for me.
I'm an open book.

Do you?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I always used to...

:)

[rowanchey.livejournal.com]

I didn't used to...but I find myself becoming more and more reclusive in general with each passing day.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Why do you think that's happening?

[voldelange.livejournal.com]

no

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:)

[photodiva02.livejournal.com]

Depends on the situation.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Often, yes it does :)

[cmerun12.livejournal.com]

Yes and no.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Depending on?

[ornjkitty.livejournal.com]

A lot more than I thought I did. Matt called me on it yesterday. It was a little scary! (Is it any wonder why I love the guy? LOL)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

He's a great guy :D

[the-ravyn.livejournal.com]

Yeah, especially feelings that I think will make me vunerable to whatever.  It's an old defense mechanism that was necessary for survival in my younger days, but is a devil of a habit to break now.  I am much more "open" than I was when you and I first met here on LJ, but I still have a way to go.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah... that's a very hard habit to break... I got into it growing up in London's version of the Bronx... weakness was not to be shown on the streets....

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

Yes, I hide them deep, deep under sarcasm. Except when I don't, at which time I express them openly. With sarcasm.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

And sarcasm is fun!

[crescent-fresh.livejournal.com]

i wouldn't say i hide them, necessarily; i've just had years of practice eradicating them.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Why would you want to do that?

Feelings

[epiphany.livejournal.com]

Nope. I'm an open book. I don't think I'm capable of hiding anything anymore.

Besides, so many years and so many dollars in therapy learning to deal with my stuff... my feelings are excellent guideposts as to where I'm at and I'm learning to adjust them to assist me in where I wanna be!

Re: Feelings

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Yes, I'm discovering that too :)

[sirenity.livejournal.com]

With most people, yes.

I guess it all depends on the person - if I love, trust them to understand what I'm communicating, then I will reveal myself.

But more often than not, I feel like I don't want to burden them, I don't trust them completely, if I do communicate, they won't understand or I simply don't want to let them 'in'. It all varies on the situation and person.

My exterior though? I come across as a very happy, content, put together person who's confident with life because I have it ALL. =) People make the mistake of thinking I'm an open book because I show that side of me to them. I mean, it's a very real part of me but that's not ALL of me.

P.S. Don't tell anyone I told you though, ok? ;)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

;)

That I can understand... it's the whole trust thing...

[laurel714.livejournal.com]

No. I'm blunt about how I feel and what I think. Even sometimes when I know it might be easier and/or better for me to NOT be so open or quite so brutally honest.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

I admire that...

[soulview.livejournal.com]

Nope

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:D

[donnickcottage.livejournal.com]

I would, but then somebody would just find the damn things and return them to me anyway.

[avis-noctis.livejournal.com]

Only when exposing said feelings will interfere with something that I want to get done. And usually any open show of emotion has some risk of vulnerability involved, so I have a habit of remaining stoic in public situations. In personal environments or alone, however, I have little problem with it, except when I myself am afraid or uncomfortable with my own emotions.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Why would you fear what you feel?

[empatia.livejournal.com]

Yes sir, all the time. It's easier then dealing with them :P

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:P

Dealing with them seems, for me, to eventually become easier...