Question of the Day

[ayoub]

What are your opinions about Valentines Day?

Comments

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

dont really have one. last year, it was the last one that dad sent me stuff, like really sent me stuff for a holiday. all my memories are with family, not friends or relationships, so i dont know what i think. i know i get overlooked a lot for stuff. i get to play kickball this year though.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Kickball is a good way to spend it :)

[huggscancer.livejournal.com]

i hope so. i didnt get to play last week. so im excited to play this week:-D

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Useless.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

If you had said anything else, I'd have been surprised...

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Without love in one's life, of course it is useless. But even with love, who needs a special day to say it? Shouldn't you say it every day, with your very actions and words? Do we really need to spend an extra forty dollars for chocolate because some priest was martyred for going against the wishes of his order?

What it comes down to, in my mind, is that it sickens me that our society has come to the point where we need a special day to express our love.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

In my opinion, the day is there to have fun, but if people treat it as a special day to express love, and don't express it at any other time, then they don't see love the way I do...

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

I don't know, my opinion is swayed by bitterness from my youth.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Please excuse my bluntness, my friend, for I know something of where your bitterness comes from, but letting it sway your opinions will be ultimately harmful for you.

I say this, because I care. I wouldn't dream of asking you to forget, but letting go of the bitterness can only be a good thing...

Sorry if I have offended...

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Not at all, my friend, not at all. But Valentines Day isn't a healthy day for an outcast child, period. Besides, I am bitter about a lot of things, one more from Valentines Day isn't going to signifigantly add to the clutter.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

At some point, you'll have to give me your phone number, and we'll have a loooooong talk...

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

One of those "I'll talk, you listen" talks?

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

You'll be the one doing the talking :)

[childeofloki.livejournal.com]

Perhaps.

I dislike it

[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

Now dont get me wrong, I am not going to give some answer about the commercialism of one day and how we dont need one day to say I love you.. we should say it all the time. Whatever. What I can't stand is being left out. Now a days, this isn't a problem but it used to haunt me. Since I was a small child I would have to sit in school and watch everyone around me get something for valentine's day and be so happy and always, if anything, I got things thrown at me. My twin sister would come home with things given to her earlier in the day.. and I would be empty handed. With the exception of the mandatory valentines day cards we HAD to give to everyone in our class. Mine usually came with nasty notes. I began to associate the day with lonliness, feeling left out and pain. It just stuck. To this day, I give back Valentine's Day presents. I am really not sure why. It doesn't help the situation. It just hurts.

Re: I dislike it

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

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[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

Why thank you!

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[ayoub.livejournal.com]

:)

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[krizsa.livejournal.com]

When I was little the same thing happened to me that happened to maeghanne.. (*hugs to you maeghanne)

Even though I couldn’t enjoy a single holiday or a normal school day thanks to my classmates, my Mom made every holiday fun a joyous outside of school.

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In the rest of this.. I think may be the odd girl out here.. I like Valentines Day just like any other holiday. I celebrate it with family and friends. If I'm with someone its fun too and if not it’s an excuse to go out and party with the gals.

One of my coworkers, she views Valentines Day as a commercial holiday, sometime tonight after she leaves for the day, I’m going to drop off a box of Godiva truffles on her desk.

My guy has his son tomorrow night, so I'll be celebrating it with the girls (skipping school, don't tell).

Even though Valentines Day is a commercial holiday $$$. I make it a point to tell the people in my life I love them everyday. I just like it because it gives us the chance to be silly and I leave no one out.

Oh no.. Help, I should be working for Hallmark!!!

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[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

I agree with you though... Commercialisation or not, it's an excuse for everyone to feel a little loved :D

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[krizsa.livejournal.com]

I agree.. I try to whenever possible to make valentines cards, and treats to share with others..

tonight, is a late night at school followed by a late evening of baking heart shaped sugar cookies..

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[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Awwwwww Heart shaped cookies are a great touch!

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[krizsa.livejournal.com]

I'm twisted.. I swear..

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[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LMAO!

Twisted is always a good thing :D

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[maeghanne.livejournal.com]

Thank you! *hugs back*

I hope to someday have as positive an outlook on it as you!

[maerlann.livejournal.com]

Hate it with a passion. Not just because of the commercialness, or the fact that you should tell someone you care about them every day, not just one, but mainly because for the week before and around it, everything goes pink.

Plus, it's depressing if you don't get anything, depressing if you do and you know who it's from and it's someone you don't fancy, infact, it's just pretty horrible in general.

I'm such a cynic :P

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LMAO! Yes, pink can get annoying...

A healthy cynic is always fun to talk to :D

[avis-noctis.livejournal.com]

I don't really have a solid opinion on it. But I have made some observations.

For the bad: it tends (key word: tends) to pressure people into the belief that being in a relationship is superior to not being in one. I've always disliked this idea in general--that one "needs" to have a significant other in life to happy or accepted. It has been over-commercialized and has cheapened a supposedly profound root theme (love) into being something engulfed by frivolity and materialism. The idea of love should not be given its own holiday. It doesn't need one. The commercialization of the day is also just plain annoying to me. It's become physically garish.

For the good: I suppose it can be meaningful in some way for some people. If so, that's awesome. It just doesn't have any meaning for me, for no particular reason. Maybe by default.

I sound kind of cynical, but I don't exactly harbour any real bitterness toward the holiday; I am just not really into it.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I agree that it can make people feel pressured into that... and that is a downside to it...

Not cynical, pragmatic.

[ex-nothingto835.livejournal.com]

I feel as though I am outwith it, if you know what I mean. I don't have enough experience of it to love it or loathe it. You've probably gathered by now that most of my adult sexual life has been spent in a slightly...unconventional relationship, and it would be somewhat uncouth of the man involved to get me anything or do anything when he had a "public" girlfriend to do all that with. To be honest, the day means as little to me as Father's Day does having not grown up with a father.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Thank you for sharing your answer :)

[nyc-poet.livejournal.com]

it's depressing because i'm single...but it's still a good day, me and my friend Kate will eat chocolate together and coo over the guys getting their girls roses and stuffed animals...and hopefully, this time around, me and her do get valentines...like one of our guy friends just says "surprise im your valentine!" haha *sighs dreamily* either way, it's not that bad a holiday :) ♥ ~Sam~

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

It can be fun :)

[lilgeorgiawhore.livejournal.com]

Y'know, in college, my friend Ro and I were pseudo-lesbians for the day. We'd buy each other cards and go out to dinner. It was fabulous. Post-college, all my girlfriends and I would go out and we'd revel in our singleness. Now that I'm actually in a relationship, I feel very indifferent about the holiday. I don't really care, whereas when I was single I was very aware of it, but never lamented the fact that I was alone, unlike my friend Meghan who still hates the holiday. It really doesn't make any sense -- she's single, she's been single for years, she's single on a day-to-day basis, but somehow she forgets about that until February 14th.

I'm going to visit Dan tomorrow, but we aren't even going out tomorrow night but Wednesday night. Neither of us really buy into the holiday, and I have made him swear that he is never to buy me a pink stuffed animal or a heart-shaped box of chocolates. He has agreed :-D

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

That's a good oath to swear :D

[lilgeorgiawhore.livejournal.com]

I think so, too. I hate those damn heart-shaped boxes of candy :-P

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

LOL!

They're just the corniest thing to give...

[sabriel007.livejournal.com]

I love Valentine's Day... but it's always been about friends more for me. I send out cards to all the best ones, and my parents and grandparents, just sweet little reminders that they're important and I love them. I like it because everyone smiles. With my ex-boyfriend it was the one day that I always new was going to be good, (though since it was long distance two and a half of our four years, Valentine's Day wasn't actually on Valentine's Day, but encompassed an entire weekend on one side or the other of it, and, since my birthday is in February, was kind of birthday combined, since getting together twice in one month didn't make any logistical sense.) Those were the only weekends I knew I'd get him all to myself, and the only ones I can remember spending so much time together and not fighting.

Technically, I don't get to have a Valentine this year, (he's far away, and we don't do Holidays, not technically being in a relationship and all,) but as the result of a weird conversation we had last time I was home, he's getting roses and an "I love you" bear delivered to his apartment... I just wish I could be there to see his reaction, though I'm plenty excited about the phone call. :)

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Sounds like you have a good plan for it :)

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

Decent holiday for a more-than-decent saint, which has now been rather strangled by all sorts of materialistic nonsense. I think a day to celebrate all the people one loves is a fine idea, and I think that Saint Valentine was a stand-up guy. I think the cheesy pun-ridden little valentines that school kids give each other are hilarious and usually give out Spiderman ("Have a swinging Valentine's Day!") and Star Wars ("Help me, Obi-Wan Kenobi...you're my only hope for a great Valentine's Day!") cards to everyone who will stand still long enough.

I think that anyone who gets bent out of shape for not receiving roses and chocolate on a certain day of the year probably needs to have the pole removed from their hind-quarters, but on the other hand, I have never been known to say no to flowers (roses are pretty, but rather expensive and they die so soon...I prefer daisies or alstromeria) and I definitely never say no to chocolate.

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

Damn Ri! Talk about saying it straight!

:D

[kalquessa.livejournal.com]

Well I can't always be wrapping my opinions in a billion dependent clauses. :)

I don't mean to upset anyone who feels unhappy for not having a sweetheart on St. V's Day, but so many of my friends make themselves so miserable about it for no reason at all. Why borrow reasons to be unhappy? They all have loving friends and families, but they work themselves into a big morass of self-pity just because they don't happen to be romantically entangled on a given day. Life is too short!

[ayoub.livejournal.com]

I know... straight talk is a good thing :)

And yes, life is too short for that :)